Successful people share 10 simple ways to boost your confidence
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How do you keep your confidence up when things really aren't going your way?
Stanford professor Maggie Neale, who teaches a high-stakes negotiation course, says people with high aspirations generally achieve more than those who don't.
The downside is, they feel worse than the folks who had no aspirations to begin with.
The old saying "if you shoot for the moon, you land among the stars" doesn't quite cover the agony of all those failed moonshots, does it?
If you haven't made your lunar landing yet, don't give up. Here are natural ways to be your own superhero and boost your confidence from champion performers:
1. Adopt a champion's mindset.
Performance coach and golf-whisperer Bob Rotella, Ph.D, says reframe your world so it's going your way, no matter what. Wet greens? You love those conditions. Fast, dry greens? Perfect for you. You don't have to box yourself in with a false sense of "ultimate truth." Instead, actively work on a positive perspective right now.
To an outsider, this might sound crazy — and so what? The alternative — constantly telling yourself what you didn't do well — undermines your confidence. It can ultimately rob you of your joy.
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2. Live in execution.
Self-made billionaire Oprah says no one can take away the gift you want to give. She learned young to focus on what she has to give, not what she had to get. If you're going for something big, then focusing too much on the far horizon can undermine your confidence, too. Instead, focus on your execution today.
Refuse to anchor your thinking in the the huge gap between today and the goal you want. The gap is scary big only because you are dreaming big. Good on you. Get back to what you can do today to feel your sense of personal power surge.
3. Know you can handle it.
Elon Musk, widely regarded as a real-life superhero, has had more setbacks than most people realize. He was hospitalized after bullies threw him down stairs in school. His first child died. His wife left him. Regarding entrepreneurial success, he said he thought SpaceX only had a 10% chance of succeeding.
Alex Malley, author of bestseller "The Naked CEO," says, "The only way to build self-confidence is to take a risk and take action despite your fear of failure, messing up or embarrassment. If things work out, then you now know you can do more than you think. If things don't work out, you now know that you can handle more than you think. Either way, you're better off."
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