Dear madam, these are six biggest mistakes you make in bed that can destroy your relationship
Our sexuality is complex. And just as any relationship requires continuous inquiry, communication and attention so does your sexual relationship.
People attach many things to their sexuality: power, attraction, acceptance, control and so on. Exploring your sexuality and communicating with your partner about sex can be both rewarding and enjoy.
But there are some mistakes women make and they just don’t realize it. But with a little adjustment within themselves, they can get the satisfaction they rightly deserve and get their game on.
NAIJ.com has come up with six biggest mistakes women make in bed but can be avoided.
1. Failure to initiate sex
This is one of the biggest mistakes women make. Men don’t necessarily want to have to run the show all the time. Be willing to initiate sex: Men like to be seduced as well. Be willing to try new things and show your interest by taking the first step from time to time.
Learn to get comfortable being out of your comfort zone and you will find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience.
2. Fear of Erotic Nature
Some women fear to explore their sexual fantasies, others fear if they are erotic: they will be seen as a cheap woman. But do you know that may be just what your man want at times. So why not have the courage to let go.
Let loose once in a while. Make him notice you. Be erotic. Play to his visual nature. Get on top during sex and take charge. Finally, become a freak in bed.
3. Seeing sex as a usual routine
After a couple has been together for a while, it is natural for them to be willing to spice up things with a little variety.
Variety may not be the spice of life always but a little mixing up of things in the bedroom definitely keeps your man engaged the more. Do not see sex as a casual act or usual routine; rather a very important act. so don’t minimize it.
4. Criticism
You need to avoid this at all cost. Nothing will turn your partner off faster than you talking or telling him what you don’t like ad what you don’t want taking place. What will be a complete arousal and turn-on is letting him know what he can do to please you and what will excite you if he does it. A clear direction will be greatly appreciated by your man.
5. They expect their lover to perform on demand.
A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter. No man can buy a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. You don’t have to wait for your partner to turn-you on always or make love to you rather get into the bed.
Take the lead, seduce him, tease him and even tempt him. Men are entitled to be tired, stressed or sometimes not in the mood for sex. Respect the fact that just because you want sex doesn’t mean your lover is and willing to perform on demand.
It is important to be sensitive to the moods and needs of your partner, as this is the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship with your spouse.
6. Thoughts of their physical looks
The thoughts of how you look like during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruin your chances of achieving an orgasm. This makes some women appreciate sex when the lights are turned off. But during sexual intercourse, concentrate on the pleasure of the act.
Abandon yourself in sex play, do not be anxious about your physical looks as men often times don’t notice half the things women obsess about.
What most men find as a lasting turn-on more than anything is that how a woman carries herself. When you are in charge of your own body, you can flaunt your biggest assets and this attracts your partner to you the more. So it is best if you try something new, new sex position or location and do not lie on the bed like a corpse.
However, as a woman, you need to nurture your sex life even after child-birth. Be attractive to your spouse so we won’t lose interest in you. This will breed a healthy marriage.
The post Dear madam, these are six biggest mistakes you make in bed that can destroy your relationship appeared first on Nigeria News today & Breaking news | Read on NAIJ.COM (Nigerian newspapers).