YFT: Between my father and mother, who should I always pick as my number one?
– Is it right for someone to have a preference between his father and mother?
– There is no known father or mother in this world who will have the same love and affection for all his or her children
– Having affection more for a particular person over the other comes naturally or environmentally induced
A happy mother in between her two children
Some people believe male children tend to love their mother more than they love their father, while another set of people think and feel that daughters are much closer to their father than their mother. However, this scenario is not always the case.
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In trying to know if a child could love one parent over the other, the Glorious Qur’an first states some things about a child’s duties to his parents. In chapter 17, verses 23 and 24 of the Book of Allaah (Azza Wajjal), the Creator of the heavens and earth states:
“And your Lord has decreed that you should not worship any other creature or thing except Him, and to parents, that is both of them, give them good treatments, whether one or both of them, when they reach old age, while living with you. Say not to them degrading words and do not repel them, but speak to them a noble word.
“And lower to them the wing of humility, out of mercy, and say: My Lord, have mercy upon them, as they brought me up when I was a little child.”
The above two verses point out the fact that our parents are our number one any day, any time.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon his noble soul) in many parts of his Hadith, instructed and advised his Ummah (followings) to obey their parents and be kind to them. A person can only disobey his parents, when they call him to practise Shirk (polytheism), in case both of them or one of them is a polytheist or unbeliever in the Glorious Qur’an and Hadith.
There was a time Allaah sent Angel Jibril to his Messenger regarding the importance of parents. When the angel said Allaah will not shower His mercies on a defiant child, Rasuulu laah said Aameen to the request. This shows how great the gravity of a sin against our parents is.
There was a time a person came to ask the Prophet of Allaah, who he should do good to first. The Prophet replied, ‘your mother.’ The man asked, who the next person should be, Prophet Muhammad also said, ‘your mother,’ and said the same thing the third time before he mentioned, ‘father,’ the fourth time.
It is from this particular scenario that shows why Muslims should always buy things first for their mother, before their father. Therefore, it is not partiality, but what Allaah has made to be so, due to how mothers suffer more on the children than fathers.
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