Dear Abby: Dying colleague has my sympathy; must I give money?

Dear Abby: A co-worker has been diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Another co-worker sent out an email with a link to a crowdfunding site as well as an invitation to a party selling products.

The proceeds will be donated to fulfilling a “cancer bucket list,” which includes pampering, trips and other luxuries.

Co-workers who have had accidents, fires, unexpected or stressful incidents all have office collections set up, even when they are fully insured.

Dear Tightwad:

Because you receive a solicitation does not mean you are obligated to respond to it.

[...] I see no reason why they “must” be invited, unless your ex is footing the bill for the wedding.

If this is the case, and the wedding is a large one, the couple could be seated “in Siberia,” which might be a less than satisfactory, but workable, solution.