My husband said our unborn baby looks like an alien

DEAR DEIDRE: I SHOWED my husband the scan of our baby and he sneered, saying that our child looked like an alien. We already have a son who is eight, and who is very demanding. When I first told my husband my news, he shouted at me that I had to have a termination but […]

DEAR DEIDRE: I SHOWED my husband the scan of our baby and he sneered, saying that our child looked like an alien.

We already have a son who is eight, and who is very demanding.

When I first told my husband my news, he shouted at me that I had to have a termination but it’s not what I want.

He mocks me and if I rub my bump, he laughs at me. He’s always been a bully. He is 42 and I’m 40.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband played a part in this conception but if you want to go ahead with the pregnancy, it is your right to do so.

A child deserves two loving parents but you may decide you’d be better off going it alone.

From what you’ve told me, it sounds like you may be being abused. Look at the Women’s Aid website (womensaid.org.uk) for support.

They have a questionnaire that will help you to decide. You can find it here: womensaid.org.uk/the-survivors-handbook/am-i-in-an-abusive-relationship.

You’ll also find help and support in deciding what you feel is best for you through Life (lifecharity.org.uk, 0808 802 5433) who provide counselling around pregnancy.

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