I got a wedding invite but only to the ceremony & party, I’ve been ditched from the pricey meal & have 6 hours to kill
WEDDING politics can be tricky to navigate with so many different parts to the big day, people can take it personally if they’re not invited to it all.
But one wedding invite left this guest stumped since it appeared to invite her to the morning ceremony and the evening party, but not the fancy meal in-between.
She shared her confusion on Mumsnet, explaining that she “received a wedding invite from a friend back in March for a wedding this August.”
The invite was sent via email and was a bit brief, but said the ceremony would be from 14:00 – 14:30 and then a reception from 20:00 – midnight.
She accepted the invite, presuming that a ceremony invite meant that she’d be there for all of the events.
She explained: “I met with a friend last week who is also invited and she mentioned the wedding and said did I notice we aren’t invited to the wedding breakfast and asked what I plan to do in-between.
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“This has now caused some confusion as I assumed a ceremony invite meant you were there for the entire day?
“But as it doesn’t mention the wedding breakfast or any dietary requirements friend thinks we aren’t invited to that.
“I don’t want to turn up expecting to go to the whole day if that’s not the case, but also don’t want to turn up and then hang around for six hours.”
She asked fellow users if they had “any idea how to approach this one,” since the confusion left in her a bit of a sticky situation.
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“[The] obvious thing is to ask but I just can’t get past that someone would invite you to the ceremony and then expect you to come back six hours later.
“And I don’t want to make it awkward if I say ‘am I invited to the meal or not’ and they say no? And then I excuse myself from the ceremony.”
Fellow users agreed that the vague invite meant that she was invited to the ceremony and reception but nothing in-between, meaning she’d have to occupy herself for a while if she wanted to attend both events.
One user said: “I’m all for evening guests on top of all day guests (and wouldn’t care if I got an evening only invite), but this is cheeky – come to the free/cheap bits but entertain yourselves for six hours in between them.”
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Another said: “I’ve only heard of this happening once in real life, and I just cannot fathom why people think it’s an ok thing to do.
“Surely just invite them to the evening do, to ask them to entertain themselves in the middle of the day because you’re not feeding them is just weird.”