I was so happy to split from my ex so why am I jealous he has found a new love?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex turned into such a selfish git after 13 years of marriage, so when we finally split I felt quite a bit of relief.

So why am I absolutely devastated to learn he’s met someone new?

I’m 53 and he’s 57. We went our separate ways 11 years ago.

When we met he treated me so well and took a real interest in me.

But then we went on to have two children and slowly but surely the wheels came off.

He refused to have anything to do with our daughters, saying he didn’t understand “women” when they asked him to play with them.

I ended up taking on everything when it came to the children, the home, all the while working full time.

There was no going back when he took over the lounge and refused any of us entry – calling it his “man cave”.

My children see him once a year and after the last trip my eldest daughter confirmed he’s just as selfish, and has a new woman who is 56.

DEIDRE SAYS:  It is hard to move on, even from an unhappy relationship, when your own life to all intents and purposes has stood still.

It does sound like you are far better off without him so now it’s time to throw yourself into your future.

You need a focus to help you to feel more positive about everything, even if it is just finding some new friends.

Have a look at Rest Less (restless.co.uk), a really positive website for the over 50s.