My boyfriend does not care if I orgasm – I feel taken for granted in the bedroom

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL used and taken for granted in the bedroom.

My boyfriend is so satisfied with our sex life, he rolls off me and starts snoring moments later.

We have been together for four years and I’m fed up with his one-way attitude to our love making.

I’m 27 and he’s 31. He doesn’t seem interested in whether or not I’ve orgasmed.

Once he’s climaxed, that’s it. Lights off, no kiss or cuddle – nothing.

I’ll admit he has to work pretty hard to bring me to orgasm, but instead of trying like he used to, now he only cares himself.

DEIDRE SAYS:  It does sound as if your boyfriend has given up trying to please you.

The important thing is to understand that a woman usually reaches orgasm when the clitoris is stimulated in the right way and, since this is outside the vagina, it isn’t directly stimulated by the penis.

I’ve sent you my support pack Help Your Partner Reach Orgasm.

Perhaps you can pass it on to your boyfriend.

Do talk to him again and ask him to appreciate how this feels for you, that you need him to make more of an effort because you feel underappreciated.