I’m a mum and was furious after another parent called my three-year-old daughter ‘huge’ – she’s perfectly healthy

A MUM was furious after another parent from her three-year-old’s class, called her daughter “huge”.

The hurt mother explained that her young girl is taller than the other children but that her weight is perfectly healthy.

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She felt upset about the insensitivity and careless language of the other mum.

Taking to Mumsnet, she said: “My daughter is three, four in December.

“Like her older brothers, she is very tall, and sturdily built.

“She is not overweight by any measure, her weight is in proportion to her height, I can see her ribs and her doctor has not expressed any concerns.

“I mention all this because I know there’s a perception that people are deluded about the size of their children. I assure you I am not.

“I know my children are more solidly built than others, but medically all the numbers are fine.

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“Anyway, my daughter recently started at a cooperative preschool where each week a parent is assigned to help in the classroom.

“While on a field trip last week (which all parents were required to attend) one of the other mums turned around and commented that she remembered my daughter from when she had helped in the classroom because ‘she is huge!’

“I responded by saying that yes, she is very tall, but I’m annoyed that someone would think it appropriate to speak that way about a child in front of her.

“I don’t want my daughter growing up feeling unhappy about her size and build (as I very much did) and I don’t think comments like that will instil confidence.

“Whenever people have said she is big or whatever I have always politely acknowledged that she is tall, but would I be unreasonable to ask them not to use that kind of language in front of her?

“I don’t want to create conflicts, but I don’t understand why anyone would think exclaiming about her size is a reasonable thing to do and I’d like to politely let them know that I’d rather they not do so, especially when they’ll have repeated contact with her over the year.”

Fellow Mumsnet users were quick to chip in with their thoughts on the situation.

One person said: “I was also a ‘big’ child. You won’t be able to stop people making stupid comments.

“You’d make more of an impact teaching your daughter to be proud of her height and not to give a damn what anyone else says.”

Another said: “I agree with you. I think comments like that are rude and insensitive.”

A third said: “I am tall (more than 6ft) and broad and was teased when younger. If not ok to mention anyone’s physical appearance.”

Another said: “Personally, I wouldn’t correct someone unless they were being deliberately rude.

“I might model the language that I prefer in the same way you did – they say she’s ‘huge’ and you reply ‘yes, she is very tall isn’t she?’

“I don’t think it warrants correction if it’s not deliberately insulting and not a horrendous word.

“I think we’re all trying to tiptoe round language at the moment so I feel as if unnecessary corrections are just unhelpful.”