I’m 23 & my boyfriend is 71 – trolls say I’m wasting my life, but we are in love and going to get married

YOU can’t help who you fall in love with. 

If it’s going to happen, it’s going to happen whether you like it or not.

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The 23 year old is happily in love with her boyfriend who is 50 years older than her[/caption]

And this has happened to one young woman as she now faces a dilemma. 

The 23 year old is currently in a relationship with her 71 year old boyfriend. 

She has been with him for two years, and recently he brought up the topic of marriage with her. 

However, she does have a few concerns about the caring role she may one day have to take on.

Taking to Reddit, the girlfriend wrote: “His mum does have Alzheimer’s or dementia, and is very frail. 

“This leads me to believe that there will be a point in his life when he will need extra care.

“His dad did not have memory issues but did have a stroke.

“He doesn’t have any children, so I would be taking care of him as he gets older.

“What does it look like to care for an ageing partner, especially if you have a job/career?

“It’s a little strange planning for an end of a marriage, but I fully believe that a decade or two of happiness with him is better than not.

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“I just want to make sure that I am the right one to take care of him and love him.”

Many people rushed to the comments section to share their thoughts.

Opinions were mixed as to whether she should go ahead and marry her other half.

And some argued that she’d be “wasting the best years” of her life.

One person wrote: “You are signing up to be his nurse, not his wife. Don’t sabotage yourself like this! You deserve better. 

“Don’t waste your young years being a servant. This is a horrible idea.

You are signing up to be his nurse, not his wife. Don’t sabotage yourself like this! You deserve better

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“This will damage you and set you back for the rest of your life, you must listen to the women who made the same mistake and are regretting it because of how the stress of being a 24/7 nurse and servant made them sick for the rest of their lives, to the point of needing but not affording someone to help them.”

Others however were more encouraging.

One person, who sadly lost their much older husband to cancer, commented: “I adored my husband. If I had the time again knowing I was going to lose him and there was nothing I could do about it. 

“I would still do it all again.

“Even if you were with someone your own age there would still be a likelihood of one of you acting for the other further down the line anyway so take your happiness if you love them then it won’t be a barrier. It certainly wasn’t for me.”