I split from my lover hoping it would make her leave her long-time partner

DEAR DEIDRE: BREAKING up with my lover because she wasn’t ready to leave her long-term partner, may have been the stupidest thing I’ve done.

I only did it to force her hand, but I hate that I’ve hurt her and worry she’ll think I don’t love her.

We met online and have been seeing each other for six months.

I’m 36 and she’s 40. When we started chatting, she told me she had a long-term partner but was very unhappy.

After we had sex, she said how guilty she felt. She told me she wanted to be with me but needed time as she didn’t want to hurt her partner.

Now, months have passed and I am tired of waiting. So I ended our relationship and told her to come back when she was single.

I feel so confused and anxious, and I miss her.

DEIDRE SAYS:  You’ve done the right thing.

Being her “bit on the side” was making you unhappy, and something needed to change.

If she really does care for you, and you’re meant to be together, she will finish her relationship and come back.

If not, then you will be sad for a while, but in a position to meet someone else.

My support pack Your Lover Not Free should help.

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