I can’t eat or sleep since the sudden loss of my wife

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my wife died four months ago, I’ve felt utterly lost and broken.

One minute she was fine, the next she’d been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. She died within two weeks.

We were married for 20 years but had no children. I’m 48 and she was 49.

The fact she’s dead still doesn’t seem real. I keep expecting her to walk into the room.

I don’t understand why nobody picked up on her condition until it was too late.

My mind goes over and over those last few weeks, trying to find an explanation.

Life seems so empty and pointless without her. I can’t eat or sleep and I’m still unable to work.

I just want to turn the clock back, but I know that’s impossible.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve had a terrible shock and are dealing with an enormous loss, so your feelings are natural.

My Bereavement support pack will help you understand the grieving process and connect you with counselling services.

You will also find support from WAY(widowedand young.org.uk) which helps those widowed under 51.

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