My boyfriend’s bitter ex-wife is set on breaking us apart
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend’s ex-wife is so bitter about our relationship, she is trying every trick in the book to get rid of me.
She’s created a fake dating profile of me, tells him I’m cheating, insists I’m only after his money and that I’ll never be allowed near their children.
I’m 35, he’s 40 and his ex is 38. Their children are 11 and nine.
We’ve been together for nine months and when we met I felt like the luckiest woman in the world.
He was everything I’d ever wanted in a man, kind and loving.
We moved in together after four months. Everything was going so well but things took a turn for the worse when he told his ex about us.
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They split up a year before we got together because, according to him, their relationship had reached a natural end. We didn’t expect her to have any issues, but she flipped.
She was furious he moved on so quickly, and insisted I would never be welcome in the children’s lives.
Ever since, she has done everything in her power to tear us apart.
She tells anyone who will listen that I’m not good enough for him and that I am only after his money.
Then she started organising lots of days out for them as a family on his weekends without the kids, knowing we wouldn’t be able to see each other.
Now she’s created this fake dating profile of me and showed this as evidence that I’m cheating.
While he’s tried his best to stick up for me, I know he’s in a tricky situation because of the kids.
But this situation is really getting me down.
I love my partner but I’m not sure how much more I can take.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your boyfriend’s ex is struggling to adapt to their new reality and deliberately making things difficult for you.
While their marriage may have come to an amicable end, she is hurting over his new relationship with you.
However, this is no excuse for the way she is treating you.
It’s important they maintain a stable relationship for the wellbeing of their children.
Would he talk to her about how damaging her behaviour is for everyone?
Ask him to set some firm boundaries with her to help her accept it’s time to let go of him, so they can both move on.
I’m sending you my support pack How To Look After Your Relationship which will help.
You can also get in touch with familylives.org.uk, who can support you.