How can I find love again after my abusive ex shattered my trust in men

DEAR DEIDRE: I FOUND dating apps on my boyfriend’s phone which he swore weren’t his but all the signs of him being unfaithful were there. So I left him.

He is 30 and I’m 31.

He would lie about everything, gaslight me, belittle me, manipulate me, and control every aspect of my life.

I put my everything into our relationship because I trusted and loved him and thought he felt the same, but in return he drained me mentally, physically and financially.

I know I’ve done the right thing, but this has destroyed my faith in finding love or even being able to trust again.

DEIDRE SAYS:  You’ve had such a tough time and it’s taken a lot of courage to get out of this toxic relationship.

You’ve learnt from this dreadful experience and you’ll be wise when you find somebody new – and you will.

Not every person treats their partners this way.

You have learned to value yourself and realise that you do deserve better.

My support pack Moving On shows that you can pick up the pieces and enjoy the freedom you now have.