I broke my own dress-code for a first date – I realized wearing a short skirt doesn’t make me ‘easy’
A WOMAN said she ignored her usual rules about how to dress for a first date.
Although Tessa Peay used to stress about what her outfit choice would communicate to her date, she now no longer dresses “for the male gaze.”
In a TikTok video (@tessapeay), the brunette beauty invited her followers to watch her do things a little differently than usual.
“Get ready with me to break my dress code for a first date,” she began.
As she oiled and curled her hair, she explained how she used to approach dating.
“My dress code for a first date used to be the most basic outfit,” she explained.
Tessa put on what she would normally wear to give us a visual: a basic white T-shirt, simple jeans, and flat sneakers.
“Don’t get me wrong, I wanted to be cute. But my mentality for dating was totally wrong.
“For some reason, I had it in my head that I wanted every guy I went on a date with to like me.”
Disapproving of her former attitude and outfit choice, she gave a thumbs down and made a horrified expression.
“Now I’ve realized, I want to be selective about who I spend my time and energy with.”
Tessa then switched into a pink mini dress that flaunted her legs and made her feel cute and confident.
She paired it with white socks, black boots, and a white purse with a pink bows on it.
Proud of her funky, flirty outfit, she said she doesn’t care about the people who judge her based on looks:
“People can weed themselves out because they don’t like my outfit, but then they are just doing me a service.”
She reiterated her changed mindset and said she is now doing whatever makes her feel good.
“I used to dress plain and boring for the male gaze.
“But wearing a short skirt doesn’t make me easy, it’s just something that I want to wear.”
Viewers applauded her attitude and style:
“I aspire to be like you gurl omg,” one person wrote.
“So much easier when you are yourself right away. And looks much better,” added another.
“I’m living vicariously through you,” a third chimed in.