I’m worried about my girlfriend’s close relationship with her best mate
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M worried about my girlfriend’s relationship with her best mate.
She spends all her time with her and I barely get a look in. I think their friendship is unhealthy and it’s starting to affect our relationship, too.
We’ve been together for a year.
I’m 30 and she’s 28, while her best mate is 27 and a single mum.
My girlfriend does everything for her mate – shopping, babysitting, errands. And when I do get to see her, she spends half the time on the phone with her.
I’ve told her how I feel and she says it’s just what good friends do for each other.
She can’t see a problem.
I’m not jealous, I’m genuinely concerned.
What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It does sound like your girlfriend’s relationship with her best mate is intense.
But if she isn’t unhappy then it’s hard to conclude it’s an unhealthy one.
Talk to her again and make it clear you need her to devote more time to your relationship.
Perhaps you could go with her when she babysits, so you are together then too.
My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.
If nothing changes, perhaps you need to ask yourself if she’s the right girl for you.