When my partner wasn’t paying his fair share you helped me stand up for myself

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I wrote to you, I was feeling resentful towards my husband, who wasn’t paying his fair share.

We’d just had a baby after four years together, and he didn’t seem to realise nappies do not come free.

I’m 32 and he’s 34.

Before I gave birth, we split everything 50/50, even though he earns loads more than me.

But after our son was born, I found myself not only struggling on statutory maternity pay, but also paying for all the baby’s essentials too.

I was so angry that even single motherhood seemed an attractive option.

You told me he might need things spelling out to him. I shouldn’t assume he realised how I felt or how much things cost.

You sent me two support packs, Standing Up For Yourself and Family Finances, which were very useful.

We had a frank, tough conversation and he agreed to help out more. Things are now so much easier. Thank you.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s good to hear that things are much better now.

We sometimes think our partners can read our minds, but often they need to be told what’s what.