I have a huge crush on my doctor and it my feelings won’t go away

DEAR DEIDRE: HAVING had a lot of health problems recently, my doctor has helped me so much.

Now I’ve fallen in love with him and I can’t stop imagining us in bed together.

I’m 53 and single. He’s about 45 and he lives with his partner.

He has never flirted or done anything inappropriate. He’s  a brilliant GP – kind, attentive, a good listener, and very handsome. 

I can’t stop going to see him or my health will suffer.

I know he would be horrified if he knew how I felt, and I would never want to do anything to get him into trouble professionally. 

But I can’t get over this crush. It’s all I think about and, if anything, my feelings are growing stronger. 

DEIDRE SAYS: Falling for a doctor or therapist is surprisingly common.

Even if he were single, it would be unethical for him to have a relationship with  you.

My support pack, Your Lover Not Free, has tips on how to deal with feelings for someone unavailable.

Please ask to see a different doctor. He will make sure you get continuity of care.