I’m gutted my pregnant ex has given me no say in her abortion

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE splitting up with my girlfriend a month ago, I’ve found out she’s pregnant and planning to have an abortion.

She has made the decision without me. My head is all over the place and I don’t know what to do.

I’m 34 and she’s 36. We were living together for a year but following lots of arguments I moved out to stay at a friend’s house.

We were using contraception but there were a few nights we were drunk and got carried away. 

She has been very evasive since we broke up but eventually told me she’s had a positive pregnancy test and has an appointment at an abortion clinic. 

I’m not sure I’m ready to be a dad or if we can even work out our problems, but I’m gutted I’ve had no say in this. 

What can I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: Finding out your ex had booked in for an abortion when you didn’t even know she was pregnant must have been a huge shock.

But ultimately, it’s her body and her decision. She may not want to be a single mum or feel your relationship could cope with a child.

Think carefully about what you want and talk honestly to her. 

It would also help you to talk to a counsellor. See my support pack on counselling.