I’m mad I wasn’t invited to my partner’s friend’s wedding & it’s split opinion – some say we’re not ‘joined at the hip’
A WOMAN has been sharing her hurt and bewilderment after her partner was invited to a friend’s wedding but she wasn’t.
But her appeal for some clarity from an online forum group only helped to muddy the waters for her.
The invite reject took to Mumsnet after learning about the wedding no-go.
But if she was looking for any support, then she was sorely disappointed, because her post divided opinions.
In a plaintive request, she asked if she was “being unreasonable.”
She went on to explain the dilemma presented to her and whether there was any possible solution.
Addressing the forum, she said: “My dear partner of nine years has received a wedding invite today.”
Normally, such an invite is cause for celebration in itself, but not this time.
There was just one name on the card, and it wasn’t hers.
“It was addressed to him.”
Utterly perplexed, she continued: “The bride and groom I have known for years.”
She revealed, however, there was some ‘history’: “The groom used to go out with my cousin but it ended with him cheating on her,” she said.
This was the only possible reason she could think of why her name was missed from the invitation.
The behavior of the bride and groom, she believed, went against usual wedding etiquette.
“I would never imagine inviting one part of a couple to a wedding,” she said.
Having had no opportunity to talk to her partner about her hurt, she took it to the Mumsnet forum.
Over 290 chipped in with their views, the majority probably swaying towards the wedding couple.
It was their day, therefore their say, seemed to be the dominating opinion.
Typical of many comments, was this direct one: “You aren’t joined at the hip because you are a couple. It’s totally acceptable to still treat people as individuals. But I can agree, it’s hurtful.”
There was little sympathy from this woman either: “My husband’s cousin has just invited him and my eldest child to his wedding. We’ve been married for 22 years and have three adult kids. Do I care? No, they’re a lovely couple, known him since he was a kid. But it’s their celebration, their money. I’m happy for them. I think you need to give your head a wobble.”
Again, this comment wanted to give a reality check: “Weddings are expensive. And they don’t owe you an invitation,” she said bluntly.
But some understood her pain.
Including this commenter: “I hate this. If you can’t afford to have both at the wedding, don’t invite just one. At the end of the day, I would be outraged, but it is their choice,” she said.
Another agreed: “It’s very rude. I doubt my husband would ever go alone.”
The final comment to her post offered some reflection that might have given her some comfort: “I think if I were to need to do this then I would at least have had a conversation with the friends beforehand so it wasn’t a shock when the invitation arrived.