Older husband is really slowing down – I feel more like a carer than a wife

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL more like a carer than a wife as my older husband is showing signs of slowing down rapidly.

I’m 55 and he is 77. The age gap was not a problem until his mobility worsened during the lockdowns.

He hardly leaves the house because he won’t use walking aids.

His GP has warned him that his muscles will deteriorate faster by staying in, but he doesn’t listen and has become very contrary towards me.

Now I take our daily walk to get his morning paper on my own. I don’t mind, but it’s lonely.

The other day, when he asked me to help him out of the bath, I became unsure if I can do this on my own.

DEIDRE SAYS: You would both benefit from a strong support network.

There are many options available, but you do need to reach out – and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Start off by booking an appointment with your husband’s GP.

My support pack Help For Carers has additional sources of help for you.