Lover did not want to commit so I ended it – but I miss our amazing sex

DEAR DEIDRE: THE most unscrupulous man I’ve ever met is also the most exciting – and I enjoyed a thrilling fling with him.

We were together for over a year and during that time I experienced the biggest sexual adventure of my lifetime.

I’m a single mum of 33 and he is 39. He made me feel like the most beautiful woman alive.

Instead of asking for the lights to be down low when I stripped off, I wanted him to see everything — I felt empowered.

From the start he made it clear he wouldn’t commit, so I tried to hold back emotionally.

We met when I took my 11-year-old son to have his hair cut by him. He owns a really nice barber’s — and as soon as I saw him, I really liked his style.

He was lovely with my son and very charming with me.

I bumped into him a couple of weeks later and he asked if I’d be interested in going for a drink.

I hardly date, because I don’t want to introduce my son to lots of different people, but there was something about this man I couldn’t resist.

He was honest from the start that he wouldn’t settle down as a “domestic life” was not for him.

I knew what I was getting into and thought I could handle it.

We went on amazing mini breaks and I enjoyed the best sex of my life.

But I soon realised that not settling down for him also meant playing the field.

He was never obvious but it was clear I was just one of several women he had on the go.

When we were together, I’d get looks from other women.

He would be completely unavailable on certain nights without explanation and he made it clear I couldn’t turn up unannounced at his home.

But when I finally summoned the courage to ask him if he’d consider becoming an item, he insisted “I’ll never settle down” and said we were better off finishing if a proper relationship was what I needed.

I am heartbroken. I feel like an addict whose drug of choice has been removed, and now I have to fill the void. How do I move on?

DEIDRE SAYS: As exciting as the highs were, you are forgetting the lows.

All those times you couldn’t contact him, didn’t know where he was or who he was with and what he was doing – that awful feeling of uncertainty breeds low confidence and low self-esteem.

You have done the right thing by ending this relationship.

And while it may hurt now, by getting out and joining clubs and meeting new people, you are more likely to meet someone who is great out of the bedroom as well as in it.

My support pack Finding The Love Of Your Life will help.