The guilt from cheating on my ex wife has made me reliant on Viagra
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER my marriage broke up, I felt so guilty about having cheated on my wife that I needed Viagra to have sex with other women.
Now I’ve fallen in love with someone and don’t want to rely on medication in the bedroom.
What can I do?
I’m 45 and my new partner is 42.
We’ve been together for three months and things are getting serious.
But four years ago, I cheated on my now ex-wife, breaking her heart.
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And after that, every time I’ve tried to have sex with anyone, I’ve thought about what I did, and my erection has vanished.
My GP prescribed Viagra, which has worked well.
But he didn’t discuss any other options. I want to be able to make love without help.
DEIDRE SAYS: Sex isn’t just a physical act. Feeling guilty, anxious or stressed can have a big impact on a man’s performance.
While Viagra sorted out your physical symptoms, it hasn’t dealt with the root of the problem – your guilt.
Counselling would help with this.
My support pack Feeling Guilty has information on how to deal with these feelings.
The one on Erection Problems will help too.
Do be honest with your new partner, rather than popping pills in secret.