My boyfriend and I fantasise about our landlord – should we take it further?
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my boyfriend and I moved into our flat, I have fantasised about being ravished by our landlord.
I’ve told my partner and he has given me a free pass to seduce him — but even though I have flirted and walked around the house naked, he hasn’t taken the bait.
I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 25. I think our landlord is in his early 40s.
He has a big house and lets out the top floor. We have been living there for almost a year.
Our landlord is very fit — he has gym equipment in his basement which he uses every day, and every time I see him in the hall or on the stairs I lust after his muscular body.
He must have seen me looking him up and down appreciatively.
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When I’m having sex with my boyfriend, I try to be extra noisy and energetic so our landlord will hear us.
Sometimes we talk dirty during sex, and my boyfriend tells me to say things like: “You’re much bigger and better in bed than my boyfriend.”
He loves the idea of being cuckolded. We also watch cuckolding porn together.
The problem is putting our fantasy into action when our landlord seems oblivious to my not very subtle hints.
Once, I even came out of the shower in a towel and waited until I heard him pass by, then accidentally on purpose dropped the towel to the floor.
So now I’m wondering if I should just ask him directly if he’ll have sex with me.
Perhaps he thinks my boyfriend wouldn’t like it.
But I can tell him that I have been given the green light. He’s single and straight, so there’s no obstacle in his way.
We’re planning to hand in our notice soon so it’s now or never.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Even if you and your boyfriend share this fantasy, your landlord may not.
Perhaps he simply isn’t interested in you or doesn’t want to blur the boundaries.
He may have an ethical issue with sleeping with a tenant and/or another man’s girlfriend.
You’ve made it as clear as you can that you are sexually open to him.
If you spell it out, you may find yourself having a very awkward time until you move out, or being evicted sooner than you’d like – and without a good reference.
My support pack about Sexual Fantasies has more information on this topic. You might also find it helpful to read the one on Swapping And Swinging.