I’m desperate for a second baby but my husband is never in the mood
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M DESPERATE for a second baby, but every time we try to have sex my husband is never in the mood.
He tries, but either can’t get an erection or can’t ejaculate.
I’m 36, he’s 40 and we’ve been married for nine years.
Sex has always been rather scarce in our relationship. My husband says he’s “not a very sexual person”.
Until now, this hasn’t really bothered me, because when we did get intimate it was great. But in the last year, it seems he has lost interest altogether.
Every time we try it’s a complete disaster and I end up sad and disappointed.
I’ve tried everything to ignite a flame inside him – sexy lingerie, flirty texts and back massages – but nothing ever seems to work.
All I want is another child but I fear time is running out.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry to hear that you’re having trouble at the moment.
The problem could be psychological – that he’s experiencing performance anxiety.
Stress and depression can also lessen his performance – he might be feeling pressured to get you pregnant.
Try talking to him about your concerns, and really listening to what he has to say in reply.
This should ease the anxiety he may feel and help you revive your sex life.
For more help, read my support pack Solving Erection Problems.