I’ve fallen pregnant and want to keep baby after romp with friend-with-benefits

DEAR DEIDRE: THE wheels are about to come off my friends-with-benefits arrangement because I’m pregnant and want to keep the baby.

The gorgeous man I’ve been having sex with has always made it very clear he doesn’t want a full-on relationship and that suited me as I had recently come out of a long-term relationship.

We would meet regularly and have great sex. We both wanted fun and the whole steamy arrangement felt very liberating.

He is my ex-boyfriend’s mate and we had always been flirtatious. As soon as I split with my ex, this guy steamed in.

I’m 23 and he’s 26.

We bumped into each other at a friend’s birthday party and got on like a house on fire, so when he offered to walk me home I’d already decided to invite him in.

We went to bed and had sex three times that night. He’s a great lover and knows how to get a girl in the mood.

He told me the next day he didn’t want “anything heavy, didn’t want a relationship and didn’t want children – ever”.

He asked if I’d ever just been with somebody just for sex because that was what he wanted. I hadn’t, but was willing to give it a go. We’ve since been meeting every week for romps.

And I’ve really enjoyed getting more confident in the bedroom.

We had been careful with protection. But one night we had a fun time out, went back to his and were both feeling really horny but when he reached for the condoms, we realised we’d run out.

We were so revved up and couldn’t resist each other so we agreed as a one-off to try the withdrawal method.

But he can’t have pulled out quickly enough as I’ve been feeling really sick recently and a test has confirmed I’m pregnant. He’s going to go mad because I want to keep the baby.

I certainly didn’t want to get pregnant and now I’m worried he’s going to think I’ve done this on purpose.

DEIDRE SAYS: Please get yourself checked out for any STIs as you had unprotected sex.

Some infections can be life-changing for mother and baby.

Be clear that the pregnancy was an accident and don’t allow him to pressure you into a termination you don’t want.

He has a legal obligation to help maintain his child and may be prepared to be an involved dad as long as you’re clear you won’t try to manipulate him into a relationship he always said he didn’t want.

If you end up a single parent, it’s tough. Talk things through with a counsellor.

My support pack Thinking Of Counselling will help.