Things got so bad between me and my wife that I had to call the police
DEAR DEIDRE: I REPORTED my violent wife to the police because I feared for my life.
I love her but can’t put up with the abuse any more.
We’ve been married for 20 years. I’m 45 and she’s 46.
She has always had a temper but over the past few years it has got a lot worse. The slightest thing will set her off.
If I don’t react the right way when she asks me a question, she will fly into a rage and scream abuse at me.
Sometimes, she will throw whatever it is she’s holding, such as a cup, plate or a tin.
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If she’s particularly angry, she will hit, kick or punch me. I’m covered in bruises but I haven’t shown them to anyone because it’s so humiliating.
I would never, ever hit her back. I was brought up not to touch a woman.
Last week, she smashed a glass and waved it in my face and I genuinely thought she would kill me.
That’s when I called the police.
She’s now staying at her mum’s and we haven’t spoken since.
DEIDRE SAYS: Women can be violent too. There is no shame in being a male victim of abuse.
I’m pleased the police are involved and you are now safely apart.
Get help from someone who understands.
Contact the Mankind Initiative (mankind.org.uk, 01823 334244), for confidential support for male victims of domestic violence.
My support pack, Abusive Partner, also has helpful advice.
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