My new girlfriend is intent on poking around in my sexual history

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of being single I’ve finally met an amazing woman, the only problem is she’s intent on poking around in my sexual history.

I’m a man of 32, she’s 27, and we’ve been dating for two months.

Ever since the day we met, I’ve been  besotted with her. I can clearly envisage a future with her.

However, recently, she has become oddly fixated on my sex life. 

At first, she started to ask questions here and there about how many people I’d slept with. I’d given her some details but I made it pretty clear from the get-go that I didn’t want to divulge. 

I didn’t think anything of it until a mutual friend of ours called me up to tell me she had been poking and prodding for information from him.

While he managed to deflect  her questions I’ve not been able to get their interaction off my mind.

Admittedly I have slept with men in the past, and while this isn’t something I’m ashamed of, I’m not ready to share it with her yet. 

Am I wrong for wanting to keep my sexual history to myself?

DEIDRE SAYS: What you choose to share is completely up to you – as long as you aren’t withholding information that would affect her sexual health.

Her preoccupation with your past suggests a level of insecurity.

Pick a moment to talk to her and confirm you know she has been asking questions about your past. Firmly explain there are aspects of your personal life you’d prefer to keep private.

Remind her that we all come as a package, complete with our past experiences, but that doesn’t change how you feel about her.

If she’s right for you she will respect your feelings and listen to what you have to say.