I share everything with my bestie – our wives would go crazy if they found out
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my best mate told me he thought my wife was fit, I sent him a nude picture I’d taken of her on WhatsApp, and asked him to send me one of his missus in return.
Since then, we’ve been swapping naughty pictures of our wives regularly, but I’m now worried other people will be able to see them.
I’m 38 and my wife is 35.
My best mate, who I met at the garage where we work is 36, and his wife is 33.
My pal and I were out for after-work drinks a few months ago, when we got discussing home-made porn.
I told him my wife and I regularly film our sex life on our phones, and also send each other nudes.
We’d both had one too many, so when he said he thought my wife was good-looking, I agreed to show him one of my photos.
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He admired it and said how lucky I was, so I forwarded it to him.
In return, he sent me one of his wife topless. Since then, we’ve sent each other several pics.
They’re a real turn-on.
In an ideal world, we’d both enjoy a bit of wife swapping, but neither of our wives would agree.
In fact, the women don’t know we’re sending photos of them to each other. If I’m honest, I know my wife wouldn’t like it.
The other day, someone told me WhatsApp is easy to infiltrate and anyone else could view the pictures.
Now I’m panicking. I’m worried they could fall into the wrong hands.
Am I right to worry?
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DEIDRE SAYS: WhatsApp uses end-to-end encryption, which means it’s safe to use and nobody can hack into your messages. But you still should be concerned.
You’ve betrayed your wife’s trust and even though no else can access your messages except you and your friend, what is to stop him from sharing them on social media or with other people?
Sending nude or pornographic photos of someone without their consent is a crime.
It’s known as revenge porn.
You’ve done this without your wife’s knowledge. And if she isn’t aware, she can’t consent.
If she, or your mate’s wife, found out what you’re doing, you could be prosecuted. And not forgetting that your marriage would be over.
Delete the photos and stop sending them to each other.
Your wives’ bodies do not belong to you, and aren’t yours to share.
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