My husband is trying to sabotage my relationship with my best friend – he wants me all to himself
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband hates my best friend and is trying to sabotage our relationship.
I love them both and I’m not prepared to choose between them.
I’m 28 and so is my best mate. My husband is 30.
My best friend and I have known each other for 20 years.
We always swore we’d never let a man come between us.
When I met my husband, three years ago, I made it clear how important she was to me.
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He seemed to accept it, but over the last year has become increasingly resentful.
She has no idea how he feels about her. He’s always nice to her face, then makes sarcastic remarks behind her back.
Recently, he’s even started saying things to try to make me dislike her.
He hates the fact that I go out with her often and spend lots of time chatting to her. He says I’m his best friend, and he should be mine.
I feel like he’s trying to create distance between us because he wants me all to himself.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Some men struggle to value the close friendships that many women share.
Your husband is clearly jealous of your relationship with your best mate. He also sounds rather controlling.
He needs to understand that you are your own person outside of your marriage and can choose who you spend time with.
Perhaps he also needs to develop hobbies and friendships of his own.
Tell him how you feel. My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help you do this without making him too defensive.