I wake up every day fearing my husband will stray because of his past
DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY day I wake up fearing that my husband will stray because of his unfaithful past.
I know it’s not fair to him, but after hearing about his antics from his ex-wife I can’t help but worry.
He is 57, I’m 50 and we have been together for ten years. Our marriage is his third.
From the start, he never hid his past from me. He was very honest about how he had previously been unfaithful and promised me he had changed.
Until now I always believed him, but after bumping into his ex-wife while shopping, my trust has started to waver.
She made multiple remarks about his cheating and warned me to watch out.
I’m not sure why I even entertained the conversation but ever since then it has been playing on my mind.
Don’t they say “Once a cheat, always a cheat” for a reason?
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DEIDRE SAYS: While your husband has a past of infidelity, if he has given you no reason not to trust him, then there is no need to worry.
It’s important to remember that not all relationships are the same and it doesn’t automatically mean he will cheat on you like he did with his exes.
Pick a moment to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Instead of stewing, give him the opportunity to reassure you.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship can help build some trust.