My lover’s secret wife clobbered me over the head with her handbag

DEAR DEIDRE: THE first I knew of my boyfriend being married with kids was when his wife ambushed us at the pub, clobbered me over the back of the head with her hand-bag and sent me flying.

I am a 32-year-old woman and have been in a relationship with this man for six years.

I can’t believe I didn’t once realise what he was up to.

He’s 35 and even moved in with me two years ago, although of course he has had to work away a lot.

He promised we’d get married and have children as soon as he’d saved up enough money.

But I’ve now learned he already has two children and has been married for eight years.

His wife apparently put a tracker on his phone because she was so suspicious of him.

When she found him, we were having a drink at our local pub.

I saw his face go white with shock, but before I could turn around she’d walloped me around the head — and then the screaming started.

She called me every name under the sun but I was so shocked I couldn’t get a single word out.

Since then my boyfriend has been creeping around me, telling me that I’m the one he wants, and that he knew it was a mistake marrying his wife but then he felt trapped by the children.

I was almost ready to forgive him and try again but I’ve now made another distressing discovery — that he’s been sending sexual messages to yet another woman.

They stretch back for four years. Our relationship is now hanging by a thread — and not helped by his wife’s vindictive posts and messages to me.

She regularly posts thinly veiled attacks on me on her Instagram page.

But the messages she sends me are the worst. She insults my looks — calling me a fat munter, saying I’m easy, and worse.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your man has skilfully lied to you, his wife and no doubt this third woman for years.

He seems incapable of telling the truth.

Can you really imagine a time when you’d be able to trust him?

Tell him you need a break to decide what you want, and make sure you get out and socialise.

See people who truly love you and want the best for you.

With a little time and perspective you’ll see that a life with him would be full of uncertainty. You deserve more than that.

His wife had a nasty shock but there is no excuse for violence and you could report her to the police.

Please block her number and don’t even bother to look at her social posts – they are doing exactly what she intends, dragging you down.

My support pack Can’t Be Faithful? will help you.