I love to dress up as an adult baby – but I’m too scared to tell my girlfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: IF I told my girlfriend about my fetish she would leave me, so I am too frightened to.

I’m a 35-year-old man and my partner is 32. We have been together for four years and, although it is a very loving relationship and we are happy, we don’t live together.

In my private time, when I am not with her, I love to dress up as an adult baby.

I have done it for years, but I have never told a soul.

I don’t think many women would be accepting and they would struggle to understand.

I can’t understand myself. I love wearing dresses, nappies and plastic pants too.

I know I will have to stop if I ever get married, even though I enjoy it very much.

I can’t talk to anyone about this. I don’t know what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your need to dress up as an adult baby probably has deep roots in your childhood.

Fetishes like this usually stem from early unmet needs – perhaps because you didn’t feel loved enough in your past.

Or perhaps you don’t feel like you deserve to be treated as an adult man.

Either way, fetishes are very hard to ignore.

My Fetishes support pack should help you. You’re not harming anyone, but it can complicate relationships.

Find the courage to tell your girlfriend. Contact the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk, 020 8106 9635) for therapy, alone or together.