I’m a 56-year-old cougar & date men as young as 19 – trolls tell me to ‘give it up’ but I’ll do as I damn well please
A SELF-CONFESSED cougar who can regularly be seen flaunting her svelte figure in skimpy bikinis has hit back at cruel trolls who tell her to “give it up” and “act her age.”
Alex, who is 56, from Aspen, Colorado, USA, has dated men as young as 19 and enjoys the fact they’re “eager learners” who she enjoys “teaching” and sharing her “knowledge and experience” with.
But despite receiving a barrage of mean remarks from keyboard warriors about her dating choices, the interior designer and content creator is adamant she’ll continue to do as she damn well pleases.
Speaking exclusively to Fabulous, Alex, who has gained herself the nickname ‘Aspen Cougar,’ explains how young suitors, who she refers to as her ‘cubbies,’ are often drawn to her.
“For the past several years, whenever I went out with my girlfriends, I was frequently getting hit on by men in their 20’s and 30’s, and rarely by men my age or older,” she recalls.
“It was extremely flattering and I embraced it.
“The Cougar/MILF trend is on fire – not all men are interested in 20-somethings, and there are many ‘cubbies’ who are into cougars.
“I can attest to that and it’s how I got the nickname ‘Aspen Cougar,’ which I find hilarious!”
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For Alex, opting for a ‘cubby’ over a more mature gentleman is a no brainer…because she needs someone who can keep up with her stamina.
“Many younger gentlemen have amazing energy, enthusiasm, and I love how complimentary they are towards me,” she says. “They express gratitude for spending time with me.
“I’m a high energy lady and enjoy how vibrant they are.
“Plus, they’re eager learners and I enjoy teaching them, and sharing my knowledge and experience.
“The age gap creates fun, light-hearted, drama free, live-in-the-moment, shared times together.”
However, not everyone is on board with the cougar’s care-free antics, with many only too happy to make their thoughts known.
“I’ve received occasional mean social media comments from anonymous haters who hide behind their computer/phone screens who have told me to ‘give it up’ and to act my age,” says Alex, who is single and has no children by choice.
I have received occasional mean social media comments from anonymous haters who hide behind their computer/phone screens who have told me to ‘give it up’ and to act my age
Alex the 'Aspen Cougar'
“I tell them I have earned the right to do as I damn well please and then I block them.”
And for anyone who believes she should “date someone her own age,” Alex says: “I have dated my age, older, and younger gentlemen.
“All age ranges have something different to offer and I don’t age discriminate.
“However, I’m not seeing the old adage that men age better than women very often anymore.
“Many heterosexual men my age and older are not taking care of themselves physically and just let themselves go…
“I rarely meet men my age or older who I am physically attracted to, but I’d definitely be open to dating one if I met that rare unicorn.”
But her cougar lifestyle isn’t the only thing that Alex gets trolled for, because her revealing dress sense has also caused quite a stir amongst her TikTok (@AspenCougar) followers.
“My style is more of a sexy-classic-retro look so I do dress my age, but I still wear a bikini, sexy lingerie, and sometimes walk around my house naked,” Alex explains.
“I’ve been told not to wear a bikini via social media haters – ageism and age shaming is something I started encountering occasionally in my 50s.
You’re not the boss of me and the only opinion that really matters is my own
Alex the 'Aspen Cougar'
“I’m 56 now. I let those negative comments roll off like water and focus on the positive ones.”
Speaking directly to the trolls, Alex says: “You’re not the boss of me and the only opinion that really matters is my own.
“If a person is confident and feels good wearing something, more power to them.
“Beauty is subjective and in the eye of the beholder.”
She adds: “Ageing is different now than it was in the past. We have made ground breaking discoveries in diet, exercise, science and technology.
“We have more control over how we age than ever before by utilizing these tools.
“Older sexy ladies like Elizabeth Hurley, Elle MacPherson, Christie Brinkley, and Jane Fonda are redefining ageing and are proof that women can be sexy at any age.
“I believe a person can be healthy, vibrant, and sexy – even in their senior years!”