I’ve fallen helplessly in love with my friend – but she’s happily married

DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH she’s happily married, I’ve fallen helplessly in love with my friend.

The last thing I want to do is ruin our friendship, but every time I see her with her husband it breaks my heart.

I’m a woman of 32, she’s 37 and we’ve been friends for three years.

We met at a mutual friend’s birthday party and became pals. The conversation flowed so easily between us that it felt like we’d known each other for years.

We’ve been inseparable ever since.

While I hadn’t initially thought of her in that way, over the last few months it’s become clear to me how much I actually care for her.

My feelings for her have become overwhelming and I’m not sure what to do about it.

I know that she’s bisexual, but I don’t know if I should tell her the truth.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your friend is married and hasn’t given you any indication that she has any feelings for you.

While it’s perfectly normal to have a crush it’s important to remember that is what this is.

It’s likely that the very fact she’s not available has made this more intense.

It’s hard but you need to choose the sensible option and keep this to yourself for the sake of your friendship.

While she isn’t the one for you, there is someone out there.

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