My bedroom performance is pants
DEAR DEIDRE: Ever since I moved in with my girlfriend, I’ve found it impossible to reach satisfaction through penetrative sex.
Sex goes on for ever, yet I never reach the finish line and it’s no longer fun for either of us.
We’re both frustrated and I’m worried something is wrong with me.
I’m 32 and she’s 30, with a four-year-old daughter.
We live in a small flat with very thin walls, so only have time for sexual encounters when the daughter’s not around or is asleep.
I have no problem getting an erection and I can easily climax on my own or via oral sex.
It’s just penetrative sex that’s become the issue.
Now we’re both avoiding making love because we know it will happen, and it’s awkward. What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Having a problem ejaculating at orgasm affects lots of men.
Usually it is caused by a psychological issue, rather than a physical one.
You say you have recently moved in with your girlfriend, which is a big change and a major commitment.
Also, you are worried about being caught by her daughter. Sex starts in your head, so the more you worry about this, the more it is likely to happen.
Don’t worry. My support pack, Man Who Can’t Climax, explains some simple methods to help you overcome this problem.
