I was invited to a wedding that was split into A-listers and B-listers – people say the B-list activity is ‘bonkers’
A WEDDING guest has expressed her disbelief after the list of invitees was split into A-listers and B-listers.
People were staggered, saying the bride and groom were “classless”.
Another person described the B-list activity as plain “bonkers.”
One of the relegated B-listers shared her sorry tale on Reddit.
Her friend lived in a different state and had chosen a small wedding ceremony.
That was “totally cool,” said Miss. B-List in her post.
“I’m not here to get mad at not being invited to the nuptials. Having a close-knit ceremony is everyone’s prerogative,” she said.
But she was not prepared when an invite arrived a week later.
She and several others were summoned to watch a recording of the nuptials in the presence of the newlyweds on Zoom.
But this wedding guest was not impressed.
“In my mind, this is so tacky,” she said.
“Who wants to attend a Zoom session and watch a ceremony that already happened with the rest of the B-squad and not even get rewarded with a party after?” she wrote, sounding infuriated.
“I like my friend, but in my opinion, if you want a small wedding, that’s what you get.”
There was general amazement from Redditors to her post, with one summing up the sentiment of many others.
“This is classless,” they said.
“If I wanted to watch a recording of something, I’d turn on Netflix,” figured a second commenter.
Some Redditors shared their experience of similar scenarios but with very different outcomes.
“My old roommate got married in a tiny ceremony with only immediate family,” she said.
“A year later she had an anniversary reception. Great food, dancing, and skipped the boring ceremony. It was probably a lot cheaper too,” she added.
It was all about timing, many commenters pointed out.
“A livestream of a wedding makes sense for those that can’t go – my husband’s cousin lives in Scotland, we live in Canada. Zoom was a great option. Anything else is just ridiculous,” they said.
It was a view repeated by this person.
“The offer of a livestream for anyone who can’t make it is a nice gesture. What they did is bonkers,” they said.
“It’s a sad fact of life that many couples think that their wedding is the event of the year, and everyone should be as excited as they are,” wrote one commenter.
“You do not need to send them a gift for an “invitation” to watch a video,” they added.
But several Redditors said there was a reason the bride and groom offered a wedding catch-up.
“They want gifts from you. That’s what this is. A gift grab,” they said.