My fiancée promised my sister she’d be bridesmaid but ditched her last minute…she thinks she’ll ruin the photos
A HUSBAND-to-be has revealed his concern after his fiancée’s bridezilla moment.
She had promised his sister she’d be bridesmaid at her wedding but ditched her at the last minute.
The pair, who have been engaged for three months, are currently planning their wedding and are currently deciding on who’s wearing what for the wedding.
The 30-year-old male, whose identity is anonymous, has known his fiancée Amy*, 29, for seven years.
He has also got a nine year old little sister called Lily*, who he believed to be “very close” to Amy.
But as time has gone on, the husband has realised that his fiancée has ditched his little sister as a bridesmaid as she thinks she’ll ruin the photos.
Taking to an online forum, Reddit he wrote a post and asked for advice on whether he is in the wrong for “being annoyed” about the situation.
He wrote: “Amy promised Lily before we even got engaged that she could be a bridesmaid for our wedding.
“Lily has waist length red hair which she is very proud of, and Amy loves it and frequently comments on how gorgeous it is and loves playing with it.
“The problem came up last week, when I was at my parents house without Amy one day, and Lily was talking to me and asking when Amy was officially going to ask her to be a bridesmaid as she was really excited to go dress shopping.
“I said that it’s none of my business as the groom, and she’d just have to wait and see, but I was really happy seeing how excited she was.”
The groom then went to ask Amy later on when she was planning to ask Lily to be her bridesmaid.
He continued: “She hesitated and then said she’s not going to ask her, and that she’s not going to be a bridesmaid.
“I was taken aback as she’d always expressed that she wanted Lily to be a part of our wedding party.”
For her to back out now on a nine-year-old child for such a shallow reason… that’s just crap on her part
Reddit user
The couple are planning to have a Spring wedding, and Amy is “very keen” on the trend where the bridesmaid wears different pastel colours.
He added: “I know that the bridal party is completely Amy’s decision, and not mine but I asked her why not all of a sudden.
“She said that if Lily was a part of the bridal party she would be wearing a pale pink dress, which would clash horribly with her vivid red hair, and she didn’t want that in all the photos.
“I personally really don’t think it would be that much of a problem, and I know Lily especially would love that dress as it’s her favourite colour.
“I asked if it was possible for Lily to wear one of the other colours, and for one of the other bridesmaids to wear light pink.
“She said she’d already decided what each of the girls were wearing based on what best suited them, and that it just wasn’t possible for Lily to be a bridesmaid.
“I left it at that for the night, as I didn’t want to get in a fight over it then.
“I’ve so far stayed out of the way of all of the bridal party stuff as it’s completely her choice, but I was shocked by this as Amy has already told Lily that she can be a bridesmaid.”
She said that if Lily was a part of the bridal party she would be wearing a pale pink dress, which would clash horribly with her vivid red hair, and she didn’t want that in all the photos
Groom-to-be
The groom decided to bring the topic up again with Amy the next morning in a calm manner, but was shocked by the response.
He said “I brought it upon again the next morning calmly, and asked her if there was no way she could still do it as she was so excited.
“Amy turned around and almost shouted in my face though and said she’d made her decision and that was final and Lily wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid.
“I told Lily that it turns out that due to a couple of different reasons, she wasn’t going to be able to be a bridesmaid, but didn’t tell her the reason why as I didn’t want her to feel like it was her fault.
“She didn’t make a big deal out of it and just said okay, but from what I’ve seen of her and from what my parents have told me she’s really upset.”
The post has attracted a lot of attention, with many rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts.
One wrote: “Your fianceé already told your little sister she’d be a bridesmaid. SMH (Shake my head).
“For her to back out now on a nine-year-old child for such a shallow reason… that’s just crap on her part.
“I hope this kind of behaviour is really out of character for your fianceé and that she’s just super stressed out and not thinking clearly.
“Surely you don’t want to marry someone who would normally hurt your little sister over something like this.
“Oh and by the way, pink and red go together very well – it’s actually on trend, so your fianceé is just plain unfashionable on top of being unnecessarily cruel to your sister.”
Another added: “Easy fix… make her a groomsmaid and let her stand on your side of the wedding party. That’s where my sisters stood.
“Also, I’d seriously question someone who breaks a promise to a nine year old and defends that s***ty behaviour by shouting you down about it.”