Dear Abby: I want to rat out boyfriend who deserted me

A couple of weeks later, he told me the pictures, nightstand, candy dishes and candle holders he had in my apartment were gifts from him because he loved me.

Tonight, he packed everything up and left! I don’t know exactly why, but I think it has more to do with his own issues than about me.

While we were together, he would discuss confidential information about some of his clients with me.

Should I leave it alone, or report him to the American Psychological Association?

Or am I overreacting to losing him? I still feel really mixed up.

There are many variables at play, and many lives would be affected by my pursuing what I want in five to 10 years.

What your wife may really be asking is, “Are you satisfied with things as they are now, and if not, what changes do you intend to make?” If that’s the case, it might be illuminating to ask her what changes she would like you to make.