My daughter’s back with disrespectful boyfriend after she promised she ended it
DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter’s disrespectful boyfriend has turned her into a liar.
She promised me she had broken up with him, but now I’ve found out she has been seeing him behind my back, and I don’t know what to do.
She’s 17 and he is 20. I’m 47 and a single mother.
When they started dating last year, I worried about the age gap, but she seemed happy.
Then I met him and I felt even more anxious. He was unfriendly and impolite to me.
My daughter’s school work started suffering, so I told her she needed to knuckle down or end the relationship.
I said she couldn’t risk her future for a boy.
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After lots of rows, she told me she’d broken up with him. But now I’ve found out she’s been seeing him in secret.
She never lied before she met him. Now she’s rude and doesn’t listen to a word I say.
I really hate how he has changed her.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your daughter is growing up and asserting her independence.
Her boyfriend may not be the guy you would choose for her, but she’s happy.
Sadly, the more you tell her not to see him, the more she’s likely to rebel.
Try cutting her some slack – she might confide in you.
Talk to Family Lives for parenting support (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).
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