I’m convinced my girlfriend’s cat sitting job is a front for her affair
DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though she denies it, I’m convinced my girlfriend is having sex with the man she cat sits for.
She is 27 and I’m 31. We drank in the same pub and three years ago she challenged me to a pool match one night.
She is such a good player and blew me out of the water.
I think I fell in love with her that night and taking her home with me felt like the most natural thing in the world.
We really hit it off in the bedroom — I’d never been with anyone who was so sensual and energetic.
Five months later we moved in together and I thought we were both really happy. But then one of her customers at the barbers where she works part-time asked her to look after his two Siamese cats sometimes while he was out.
He’s the opposite of me, into his fashion and fitness.
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My girlfriend said she could do with the money so took him up on the offer.
She’s an animal lover and she loved being with his two cats. But recently she’s been spending so much time there.
Last week she visited at teatime and wasn’t back until 9pm. She looked a bit flustered on her return but said one of the cats was ill and she wanted to wait for the owner to come back home.
This week, she went over again in the evening and didn’t return until the next morning.
She said she fell asleep and the guy didn’t wake her when he returned, but put a blanket over her. I don’t believe her.
I think they’re having an affair – but what would she see in him?
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DEIDRE SAYS: She may not see anything in him other than him being her employer.
Yes, she’s stayed out a longer time than normal with these cats but she’s an animal lover and most animal lovers wouldn’t leave a cat in distress.
She could be telling you the truth.
You have no proof that she’s been sleeping with him.
If you’re that convinced something is going on, find a quiet moment to ask her if she’s happy with your relationship.
Explain to her you are worried, she may be able to reassure you.
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