How to deal with a break-up
DEIDRE SAYS: Brits have an average of 7.5 relationships during their lifetime, so break-ups are common. And many struggle how to get through the heartbreak of a split.
It can be difficult to accept that someone who was once a big part of your life quickly becomes a virtual stranger.
This mourning period is different for every single person – but we all get through it. Everyone heals from a broken heart.
So how should you deal with a break-up?
- Let It Out
It can feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster after a break-up – you may feel everything from relief to guilt, failure and freedom.
It’s important to let these feelings out.
Some find writing it down helps to clear their head, while others prefer to open up to a trusted friend or family member. Many write to us at deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk for support and advice.
It can also help to speak with a relationship counsellor – someone who knows nothing about your relationship and won’t judge what you have to say.
Relate can help you find support in your local area.
Get in touch with the Dear Deidre team
Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.
- Self-care
Look after yourself as if you were fighting a physical illness – rest up, eat well, and don’t try to do too much at once.
Some also find it helpful to throw themselves into a new hobby, such as sport. It’s a great way to meet people and an ideal distraction. Try Sportsbase to find local groups.
And don’t be too stuck on the idea of finding a new partner – this will come when you’re ready.
- Limit contact with your ex
Constant communication will delay your break up recovery.
If they’re still trying to contact you, explain that you need time and space – my support pack Standing Up For Yourself can help if you’re struggling to get your point across.
On social media, unfriend, mute or unfollow your ex so you aren’t tempted to check-in.
More information is available in our Moving On support pack.
Whatever your worry, you’re not alone. The Dear Deidre team will be able to recommend your best next steps to help get your life back on track.
For more tips, a support pack and personalised advice, email us at deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk or for a prompt response, message us on Facebook.