No matter what we do my boyfriend finds it impossible to climax
DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with my boyfriend is the best I’ve ever had, but no matter what we do, he can’t reach a climax.
He says he doesn’t mind and that he loves it, yet I can’t help but worry that I’m doing something wrong.
I’m 34, he’s 38 and we’ve been together for six months.
Our relationship is amazing and when it comes to sex he always puts in lots of effort to make sure that I’m enjoying myself.
He’s brilliant at foreplay and I have multiple orgasms every single time.
The only trouble is I end up thinking sex isn’t half as good for him.
While he gets aroused and has a good time, he has never reached a climax with me. He reassures me that it’s fine but I’m starting to worry that it might be something deeper.
I know I should trust his word but what if he’s just trying to spare my feelings?
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DEIDRE SAYS: There are a number of reasons why a man may struggle to reach an orgasm.
If he can masturbate normally, there is nothing physically wrong, so there may be something psychological that is stopping him from letting go.
There may be an issue he is unaware of but holds in his subconscious.
My support pack, Helping Your Man To Climax, explains more.
You can also contact cosrt.org.uk (020 8106 9635) who will put you in contact with a reputable sex and relationship therapist.