Partner has given up on sex as I’m never in the mood but I want to change

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE always been reserved and inhibited.

And while I’d love to be more sexually adventurous, it’s like there is something invisible holding me back, and I don’t know where to begin.

My partner of 31 years and I had a pretty solid sex life. I’m 55 and he’s 57.

But now he says he’s fed up with always suggesting sex and hates it when I reject him, so he’s shutting up shop.

Admittedly, I was sometimes tired, but now we haven’t had sex for four months and I really miss it.

I wish I knew what to do about this.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s quite understandable that after 30 years your partner has put his foot down and is insisting you take the initiative.

After all, it’s not only women who like to feel desirable.

You don’t need to start swinging from the chandeliers, or wearing nipple tassels to give him the right cues – just stroking his arm in bed or cuddling up close can send him “come to bed” signals.

Read my support pack Too Inhibited? – it should help you.