My fiancée won’t plan our wedding since seeing a message from webcam girl – how can I win her back?
DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancée saw a message from a webcam girl on my phone.
I’m a guy of 25 and I’m engaged to a lovely woman of 26.
She suffers really painful periods so she doesn’t always want sex. I don’t pressure her but I miss it.
One night I was working late and I knew she was feeling ill again so I went on some webcam sites and paid to look at two women.
They both asked if they could private message me and now I realise they just wanted more money.
Then when I was in bed asleep one day, having caught a bug, one of the women messaged. My fiancée saw it.
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I’ve broken her heart. She has stopped planning our wedding and says she can no longer trust me.
These women meant nothing. It was harmless fun and it backfired.
How can I win my fiancée back?
DEIDRE SAYS: Your fiancée’s painful periods are just one of many bumps in the road you’ll have together if you’re going to commit to one another.
The question is, are you ready for all that?
Even though there was no physical contact with these women, you were interacting with other real people and it’s a form of cheating.
Apologise unreservedly for upsetting her.
Block the numbers of the webcam women and focus on getting your relationship back on track.
My support pack How to Look After Your Relationship explains how.