Sex is so much spicier in your 50s than your 20s – I am fearless in the bedroom now
WE give ageing a hard time, when, in actual fact, it should be the opposite.
After a life spent in pursuit of youth – youthful looks, attitudes, dress sense, sexual desire – the truth is that ageing is actually pretty darn good.
Pictures of actress Heather Graham looking swell in a bikini at the age of 53 not only suggest a woman with confidence, a woman in control, but also a woman who is really comfortable in her own skin.
And as if to back that up, a recent survey says that 53 is the golden age – because it’s the age at which we feel sexiest.
I can confirm this to be true.
I am about to turn 56 but despite worrying about hitting 50 and what “old age” would bring, I needn’t have fretted.
It took me a bit of time to get used to entering my sixth decade.
It was like wearing in a new pair of heels – initial excitement replaced with pain and uncertainty – but new shoes are never comfortable to start with.
But as I turned the corner of 52 and approached 53, I felt so much more confident about who I am and what I wanted.
It felt like I should probably have got a higher pair of heels because I wanted to tower over everyone else who thought I should go quietly into old age.
Sex life spicier
According to the survey, 40 per cent admit that they stop worrying about how they come across when they are 53.
Never a truer word has been spoken.
I think as women, in particular, we’re programmed to constantly be aware of what people think of us, how we will be judged and how we come across.
Some of us might have spent decades not speaking up or speaking out.
Well, roll on your 50s because all that disappears.
Suddenly, you really don’t give a flying fig.
I think that because ageing is inevitable, you learn to accept it and I have definitely embraced the way I look.
My body has done great things and I’m indebted to it for that.
Dating is much more exciting than anything I experienced in my 20s or 30s too and, at the risk of boring you, as if you didn’t know, the sex life is considerably spicier.
Why? Because we now know what we want and worry less.
It’s utterly freeing and blissful.
Insecurities and inhibitions disappear.
You might think it’s because time is no longer on our side and we have to make every minute count.
But I think it’s more positive than that.
Our outlooks change and our experience is worth its weight in gold.
We’re punchy and cool.
We’re fearless and not afraid to show it.
I’m telling you now: 50 is the new 20.
Besides, you couldn’t pay me to be 20 again.