I’m afraid to love again – maybe I’m just unlucky in love
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER losing both of my wives to illnesses. I’m worried I may be jinxed.
The last thing I want is to be faced with another loss, yet I can’t help but crave love and intimacy.
I’m a 75-year-old man and I’ve been happily married twice in my life.
My first wife showed me what love really was.
We had a beautiful 30-year marriage and I loved her with all of my heart.
I was devastated when she passed away after contracting breast cancer.
At that point, I never expected to find love again. However, everything changed when I met my second wife.
I fell head over heels for her and we went on to spend 14 amazing years together. But tragically she also passed after suffering a stroke in her sleep.
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Coming to terms with the loss of both my wives has been heart-wrenching, and I’ve really struggled to make sense of it. But now, after years of being alone, I’m starting to notice the absence of love in my life.
I’d love to be married again and while I’ve thought about dating again, I’m worried sick that my next wife will face the same fate.
Is it worth the risk?
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s completely understandable that you are cautious about embarking on a new relationship after you’ve experienced such loss. But you are not jinxed.
What happened to your wives was tragic, but you need to remember that it was out of your control and it doesn’t mean history will repeat itself.
Don’t let your past put you off finding the love that you truly deserve.
My support pack, Widening Your Social Scene, will help get you back out there.
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