Re: Son’s break up.

Spike

Made in Daegu

Also, if this girl doesn’t appreciate what your son has to offer, if she’s not really grateful of him, then she’s not worthy of his time and effort anyway! It might sound harsh but the best way to get over a break up is to focus on the negatives...why she isn’t ‘the one’, aspects of her personality which were just too damn annoying etc- focusing on these sides to the relationship will really help him to move on!

Seems a bit of a harsh way to look at it to me, there doesn't need to be somebody to blame - these things happen and there's nothing in Mr. Driscoll's original post to suggest that the young woman involved needs to be demonised. Especially at a time where a bit of kindness might not go amiss.

Yes, it's tough on Junior, and it's tough to see your kids suffer, but he will come through it and put it down to being one of life's experiences.

I know it’s harsh and I’m not suggesting that she should be demonised or made out to be a bad person. I really don’t mean that. But, from my experience, it’s much easier to move on if a focus is placed on the ‘less good’ aspects of the relationship: the reasons that signify that actually, breaking up WAS for the best; that he’s better off without her.

These are thoughts only in his own head. But I really do think that such a way of thinking is conducive to moving on much more quickly. After all, it will be SO much worse if he hasn’t moved on, if he’s hanging on by a thread, only to discover that she’s seeing someone new.