Re: Things to like about lockdown...

Brother Tam

MForssell9

Funny how others are really enjoying the lockdown, I’d guess you are all mostly in houses.
It’s been an absolute nightmare for me living in a flat in a crap rough area with inconsiderate chav neighbours.
I’d say April was possibly the worst month of my life.

I remember you talking about this a few weeks ago, and I'm sorry to hear that it hasn't improved. It must be a horrible time. From experience, can I make a couple of suggestions that worked for me? Admittedly, I didn't have the sort of neighbours or situation that you describe, but for a couple of years I was stuck in a house where I didn't want to be, and couldn't move from.

What I did was to say to myself that every minute of the day was a minute closer to the time that I was able to move - I didn't know when it would be, but every minute was that minute closer. I used the time to make plans, look at other areas, and other houses - looked at finances,drove round (I know, not really possible at the moment) to look at areas that I liked, spoke to mortgage brokers, etc.

I don't know if your flat is mortgaged, HA or council (and I'm not being nosey!) but in any case you can start the ball rolling in terms of research and plans (even if you end up renting somewhere for a while). There's very few things that present an insurmountable obstacle and just to be doing something, thinking about it, or planning doesn't half alleviate the stress and misery of a situation.

Then picture the day you move out. It won't be long.

Sorry if that's a load of old cobblers and doesn't relate to your situation, but if it does, just say 'OK, that's done - I'm out of here'. Then just work back from that and make it happen.